Marriage

I first really started to consider the blog after reading this article:
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/31452178/ns/today_relationships/ by Sandra Tsing Loh

I am no relationship expert, but I have to admit the hair on my neck raised a bit as the article ended with:

"In any case, here’s my final piece of advice: avoid marriage — or you too may suffer the emotional pain, the humiliation, and the logistical difficulty, not to mention the expense, of breaking up a long-term union at midlife for something as demonstrably fleeting as love."

Really?
Has it come to this?

If you read the entire article, you get a sense that Sandra is feeling guilty for her "transgressions" and is admittedly lazy, unwilling, and too selfish to "work" on her marriage.

I do not condemn the author for her thoughts - I just happen to disagree.
Marriages all have their own dance. When one or both choose to cut in with another partner, well we can see what happens.

I follow a few blogs written by young widows and widowers. Not that any of them know how long their marriages would last if they had the chance to live them to a decent life expectancy but I wonder what they would say to this author?

My own marriage is surviving a crisis. We are "working" at getting back to thriving (I have seen more and more glimpses of this and it is wonderful).

My point is this - it is worth the work. I love to work at my marriage.
I am grateful I have the opportunity to do so.

I love you b.